Emotional Plot - Life 101 Lecture

Pain
The first cut is the deepest. When we experience something that hits us so close to home that we hurt, then it becomes a process to work it out. Not everything that happens can roll off our backs. Emotional cuts might not "hurt" as much as a flesh wound, but they last longer and take more than bactine and band-aid to heal from. Internal bleeding is the difficult to control. When you cannot find the source of the problem, our ability to diagnose and treat it is very difficult. This is why pain is hard to deal with. We hurt, but we can't see emotions. How do you interact with intangible concepts? We let them flow as they need. But this is problematic. unchecked emotional damage can lead to worse conditions, such as broken heart syndrome, emotional breakdown, mental instability, depression, and in some cases can manifest physically. Pain is hard to deal with and harder to remove, unless it is given it's time to work itself out. But in this modern age of medicine, is there nothing we can do to speed the process along? Yes there is! Your fellow man. Women talk so much because they know the secret to fast recovery. Express yourself. Work it out with others. When you are not given the chance to work it out, you fall into a long, arduous, process of it working out in time.

Internalizing
Who wants to be a burden? What does anyone else have to do with your problem? Why are they always asking for something from you? "Dammit, can't I just be left alone?" And here the pain is sent through the first part of the processing plant. The emotions that need to bleed out aren't being allowed to flow freely into the world around you. It might seem honorable to hold onto your emotional state in order to keep others around you unharmed, but I will tell you right here and now, not working these things out and keeping them inside you is just going to get yourself and the people around you sick. Is letting the pain fester inside of you so important that you cause harm to the people around you? Internalization used as method to work out what is causing the pain is a perfect way to begin working it out, and can lead to the fast track of successful healing. But if you take you pain and try to put it away in a little jar on the shelf of a dark out of the way closet somewhere deep within yourself you are just asking for trouble. Emotions are dynamic. Anything that moves as freely as the wind and has a continuousness that is going to rattle, shake, jump, and make as big a deal as it possibly can. It wants to get out. It doesn't like being inside. Being inside is dank. Outside, however, thats where pain can become freedom. So pain, naturally, wants to be released. We have to take an active role to capture it and put it away. Isn't that a bit of wasted energy?

Loneliness/Sadness
So now you have a bundle of energy bounding inside of you wanting to get out. Much like a child with ADD. You don't wanna let him lose, you have no idea what we will do. The last thing you want is to hurt someone the way you were hurt. So you are spending your time playing babysitter to your own unhealthy burden. It bounds around just waiting for an opportunity to some bounding out. So, how do you slow it down? You slow yourself down. You become down because you are denying both your own and it's instincts, as well as muting yourself to try and keep it from flying off the handle. Who has space and time for fun when you are constantly nursing your own bad feelings?

Frustration
That little ball of energy is justa bounding around at break stuff velocity now. And if you aren't careful, it might just crash into other sealed up vessels. Now you know you have to get rid of it. But you turned your friends away when they knew you needed them before, so they aren't available now. Isn't the world a cruel place? That people can't just be there for you whenever you need them? Well you decided to hold onto it in the first place. If you have to be such a damed fool about it, then deal with the consequences. But whatever are you going to do?

Anger
And here we have the only way we think we know how to get rid of the pain. Thing is, about anger, is that it only relieves frustration. That is, you're treating the symptom not the cause. In this state you are likely to lash out at people who already know you are unwell. But this sudden attack only makes them want to retract. You have gotten so mixed up that you are fighting the people that want most for you to be well. And now you have done the one thing you had wanted to prevent from the beginning. And often anger breeds more anger, and you are burning bridges and catching people on fire carelessly. So where do you stand now?

Violence/Action
I have a great Idea. Work it out physically. Unfortunately due to all that anger and frustration AND pain bouncing around, you probably wont go for a walk to work out your muscles and clear your head. No, you will break shit, smash things, and generally scare the shit out of people around you. You will continue harming things and people until you break just the right one, often leaving shattered glass, broken bones, and blood splatters in your wake. Then you will find yourself filled with the melancholy of destroying something special. But in part wasn't that want you wanted in the first place? some kind of revenge? To make someone else feel what you felt, so you could have someone to talk to about it? It doesn't make much sense, but in truth you have created your own support group by making them sick like you. How does that make you feel?

Tears
Crying can come at any time of the process. It relives both Frustration and Pain. People who are quick to cry are actually well adjusted to their own emotional frequencies. Of course, people who cry too often most likely have deeper seeded issues that might need to be worked out with years of therapy. That aside, the salty water that pours from the eyes is the best kind of self healing we can preform on ourselves. While crying we open ourselves up completely. All the bad feelings can escape at this time. Let them fly out just as your allow the water to flow. There is nothing like a good cry, because it frees you from all the hurt you have been holding onto. The longer you have held the pain, the longer the healing process will take. Allow your face to contort, let your vision blur, whimper, whine, grunt, and remember to breathe. Hold yourself, or allow yourself to be held by others. If you must take a run and let your tears be taken away by the wind, then do so. At this moment you are at your most vulnerable. Make your space and time so that you have a safe place to come down in.

Moving on
Once the tears have stopped take one of those deep breaths I am always talking about (its a wonder how oxygen can help us heal as well). You will probably find you have a lingering feeling of stiffness. This is natural. Get up and wash up. Wash away the left overs that might have dried on your face. Plus there is a highly likely chance that your sinuses got in on the action. Let the cool water reinforce you. Look at yourself in the mirror. See yourself. yeah you might be red around the eyes, and your hair might be a mess, and you might have a frog in your throat, but you are still beautiful. Take whatever time you need to work out any thoughts you need to, reflect on what you have done, what caused it, and how you dealt with it. If you don't like the way you handled yourself, then reassess your way of dealing with pain. Once you have cleared your head and put it back on straight, go outside and greet the day. Remember who you need to apologize to, and how that works with the nature of each person you interact with. If you need to, take someone's hand to hold.
Now it is time for you to build or rebuild your connections, which can be a very fun and exciting process. Be honest with yourself and with your dear ones. It is always easier to start over with some semblance of a foundation to work from. The ones who have always been there for you will be there for you again now. Also there is the chance that there will be some new ones coming along who have experience in this field to give you a little boost to help you away from your hurt, towards your happiness.